So my first with session Dr Graham went well. He asked all kinds of questions and some I wasn’t even expecting. He tried to dabble into my past but as I have a bad memory we quickly talked about now. It was a relief that we didn’t get hung up on things that happened forever ago. He also assured me that Medalie would take his letter. I already knew that but that’s fine. Then he asked me when I was having surgery. The way he worded it, it sounded like if I needed the letter ASAP he would make it happen.
We talked about my name and where and who and how I go by it. We also talked about my wardrobe. It was more complicated as I haven’t really shopped for new clothes in like 5 years, besides the few things I pick up here and there. Nothing was girly girl clothes so that satisfied him as an answer. He wanted to know how often I dressed male. We dabbled on my grandmothers support for me and how I made it clear my mom wasn’t going to know any time soon as she doesn’t know how to keep her mouth shut. It didn’t seem like that answer bugged him.
We also talked about T. I was clear I wasn’t sure if I would ever start it. I was amazed at his answer. “Well as I said there is no pre requisite to take hormones with top surgery – If you pass well and feel comfortable with that then quite frankly I see no reason for you to take T”. Finally someone who gets it. I don’t have a fear now that he won’t think that I’m not “trans enough” to get this done.
We also talked about me getting a hysterectomy. Now I was surprised as yes it has crossed my mind,way before I knew I was trans actually, but it wasn’t something I was researching or planning to get any time soon. With that discussion came about the monthly periods. I told him I was on Depo and I was fine taking that for now. Though if I could take something without proestrogen it I would. Then he was like T is for life, or until the inner girly parts are removed.
Then we wrapped up with how I thought the session went. We even joked about how it saves gasoline. “Come to me – I save you gasoline :-)” It must suck for those that have to travel over an hour just for therapy. They should really meet Dr. Graham and save a bundle. I will see him again next week. Turns out it will only be about 4 sessions, not the 8-10 that I had said before.