My second therapy session was such a fail it didn’t even deserve its own post. All he did was talk about what gender dysphoria was. I was quite upset by the wasted hour.
The third session went good. He seems to repeat what I am having the sessions for, which is kind of unnecessary. He assured me he wouldn’t ask for any more money. Then it was just the basic questions of when the dysphoria started and when I noticed I was different. He asked what puberty was like and how work and friends gendered me. Then he asked how I dressed again. It’s kind of annoying when they ask the same questions over again.
The best part out of the session was he asked if was wanted the letter sooner or later. Of course I said sooner. Turns out he will be writing it this week and we will review it together next session. I’m so excited to be getting my letter. One step will soon be out of the way for a better life.
So my first with session Dr Graham went well. He asked all kinds of questions and some I wasn’t even expecting. He tried to dabble into my past but as I have a bad memory we quickly talked about now. It was a relief that we didn’t get hung up on things that happened forever ago. He also assured me that Medalie would take his letter. I already knew that but that’s fine. Then he asked me when I was having surgery. The way he worded it, it sounded like if I needed the letter ASAP he would make it happen.
We talked about my name and where and who and how I go by it. We also talked about my wardrobe. It was more complicated as I haven’t really shopped for new clothes in like 5 years, besides the few things I pick up here and there. Nothing was girly girl clothes so that satisfied him as an answer. He wanted to know how often I dressed male. We dabbled on my grandmothers support for me and how I made it clear my mom wasn’t going to know any time soon as she doesn’t know how to keep her mouth shut. It didn’t seem like that answer bugged him.
We also talked about T. I was clear I wasn’t sure if I would ever start it. I was amazed at his answer. “Well as I said there is no pre requisite to take hormones with top surgery – If you pass well and feel comfortable with that then quite frankly I see no reason for you to take T”. Finally someone who gets it. I don’t have a fear now that he won’t think that I’m not “trans enough” to get this done.
We also talked about me getting a hysterectomy. Now I was surprised as yes it has crossed my mind,way before I knew I was trans actually, but it wasn’t something I was researching or planning to get any time soon. With that discussion came about the monthly periods. I told him I was on Depo and I was fine taking that for now. Though if I could take something without proestrogen it I would. Then he was like T is for life, or until the inner girly parts are removed.
Then we wrapped up with how I thought the session went. We even joked about how it saves gasoline. “Come to me – I save you gasoline :-)” It must suck for those that have to travel over an hour just for therapy. They should really meet Dr. Graham and save a bundle. I will see him again next week. Turns out it will only be about 4 sessions, not the 8-10 that I had said before.
So the last week has done a complete 180. Shortly after giving my $500 deposit to Dr. Steinwald I had a revelation. I quickly called up my insurance and gave them the surgery codes that are on Dr. Medalie’s website. My surgery is covered by my insurance… well except for the nipple grafts. From there I contacted Dr. Medalie and found out the nipple grafts are only $500. Plus body contouring that’s a $2000 out of my pocket.
But now I am back to my original problem. I need a letter from a therapist. I started looking on Susan’s at the list of online therapists. Then it occurred to me that Medalie had mentioned they would recommend a therapist if I needed one, so I asked. Turns out it was the one I was looking at. Dr. GRAHAM L PEVELLER http://www.gendertherapist.com/ After a briefly contacting him I was sent all kinds of information. 8-10 therapy sessions plus a letter for $280. So affordable. Not even half a day later and I have my first appointment scheduled for Thursday.
I really hope I can get a letter from this guy. I am completely out of options otherwise. I turned to online therapy as all my face to face therapy in the past has blow up at me. I will let everyone know how it goes. It seems like the right option. Dr. Graham has all kinds of packages on his website to. So if you just want a hormone letter or a full blow SRS letter, it’s all packaged affordable at around $40 a session.
I am for sure considering other liposuction now. I was planning to spend around $10k and to have that shot down to $2k is awesome. Obviously I won’t spend $8k in liposuction. Probably just my lower abdominal area and maybe if Dr. Medalie suggests anywhere else to get rid of my feminine shape.